Being a separated parent and being rejected by your own child can be a very painful and challenging experience. Here are some suggestions on how to handle the situation when a child begins to reject one of the two separated parents.
#1 – Be patient and understanding: Your child is going through a difficult period and needs your love and support. Don’t try to force them to see you or interact with you, but offer your support when they need it.
#2 – Maintain open and respectful communication: Let your child express their emotions, even if they are not always positive. Listen carefully without judging or trying to correct them.
#3 – Respect their choices: Even though it may be difficult to accept, respect your child’s decision to maintain emotional distance. Don’t try to blame them or make them feel guilty for this choice.
#4 – Be consistent and present: Don’t give up your role as a parent. Continue to be present in their life, even if they initially seem to reject your presence. Try to maintain a consistent and coherent relationship, respecting the boundaries your child has set.
#5 – Avoid conflict with the other parent: It is important to maintain an environment free of conflicts and tensions for your child. Avoid speaking negatively about the other parent or involving your child in legal or relationship matters.
#6 – Offer interaction options: Look for non-intrusive ways to stay in touch with your child. For example, you could send occasional messages to let them know you are there for them, or you could invite them to spend time together in ways that may be less stressful.
#7 – Seek professional psychological counseling: If the situation seems very difficult and you cannot handle it on your own, consider involving an experienced psychologist who can help you communicate and deal with feelings, work on your self-esteem, and emotional well-being.
#8 – Seek professional legal advice: If the situation requires it, consult with a legal expert in family law.
#9 – Don’t accuse them: Never accuse your child of being a liar or of siding with the other parent. This will only worsen the situation.
#10 – Your child is the victim: You are not the only victim of the situation; it is your child. Playing the victim would only further alienate your child, who may feel “up” compared to you (the victim) feeling “down.”
